The Key to Going From “Just Friends” to More Than Just Friends

Many years ago when I was single, I had a roommate. One day, we were at a record store; and she struck up a conversation with a man who worked there. They had a lot in common music-wise and the conversation was great. But she was 10 years younger than he was, and she insisted he wasn’t her “type.” So they became friends.

They talked music, they went to concerts, and did all kinds of things friends do together. Until they become lovers. Turns out she wasn’t really his type either, yet he had always found himself inexplicably attracted to her from the beginning. And, by the time he revealed this, my friend’s feelings had already been turning romantic for him.

They’re now happily married. What seemed (from the outside) like a friendship that could never get romantic turned into a life-long love story.

The Key Was That He Was Always Into Her

If it had been the other way around – if my roommate had been totally into him, and he just considered her a pal – this would never have gone further than friendship. She would also have ended up feeling humiliated and wounded.

“When a friendship turns into a love relationship, the attraction was usually there for the man from the beginning.”

While it may be tempting to tell a man you’re friends with that you’re attracted to him in a romantic way, you’ll get nowhere if he’s not already attracted to you. And it won’t make him fall for you. He won’t want anything more than a fling or a friends-with-benefits type of arrangement. And if you want more, you’re only going to end up getting hurt.

What It Should Feel Like

A relationship depends on the man being attracted to the woman, so that you never question if he’s “into you.”

When a friendship turns into a love relationship, the attraction was usually there for the man from the beginning. But for whatever reason, he opted for “friends” and didn’t pursue the romance.

Sometimes, it’s possible to change your vibe so totally that you feel like a different woman to him, and the original attraction he felt for you get ramped up to a place where he’s clearly and obviously “into you.”

There are specific subtle shifts you can make in yourself that will magically cause a change in the man you’re interacting with so that he can’t help but fall for you.

If there’s a man in your life who is “just a friend,” using my Tools is the easiest, risk-free way to see if he is truly into you without needing to put yourself out there and declaring your feelings for him first.

And if he’s not interested in more than friendship at all, you’ll find that these Tools will start drawing more men into your life who will want to connect with you romantically. You might even decide Mr. Just A Friend was not Mr. Right after all.